The divorce process is emotionally draining and can take a huge toll on you. However, when it is finally over, the freedom you feel is simultaneously amazing and terrifying. When you are divorced, you are liberated. Deciding what to do with that liberation is a wonderful adventure. At the Law Offices of Regina M. Taylor, we've gotten to usher many men and women out of unhappy marriages and into the next chapter of their lives. Read on to discover our tips for making the best of your fresh start post-divorce.
- Take time to care for yourself.
You might think the whole concept of self-care is overrated, but it's really not. You've been worried about the divorce process and your ex and your children for months. It's only fair to take some time for yourself. Self-care means different things to different people. For you, it might mean taking the afternoon off to go fishing and enjoying some peace and quiet in a boat. Or maybe you're more into getting a mani pedi and a massage. Whatever it is that brings you bliss, allow yourself to indulge in it once in a while (unless it's drugs, alcohol, violence, or some other vice — if that's a case we recommend talking with a therapist and looking for some healthier forms of self care).
- Form healthy habits.
A major life change is a valuable opportunity for changing your habits. It may feel like everything is in flux, but the plus side of this is that you can be intentional about establishing new habits that are healthier than the old. There's nothing like healthy eating, frequent exercise, and meditation to make you feel truly renewed. It's also a wise decision to get into the habit of attending therapy regularly. A therapist can help you process your feelings regarding your divorce and can teach you healthy coping mechanisms.
- Try something new.
Is there a hobby you've always been curious about but never tried? Maybe you're fascinated with horseback riding but your husband didn't want you to spend the money on lessons. Or maybe you've been yearning to learn to surf but your wife insisted there wasn't time for you to go to the beach. Now is the time to try something new, even if it gets you out of your comfort zone. Doing this will help you form your independent identity!